I remember when I was growing up and getting all excited about summer holidays starting or a vacation starting or some up coming big event like going into town on Friday night. My sisters and I would say things like…I wish it was Monday now, or I wish it would hurry up and be Tuesday or some such.
That’s when our Grandad would calmly say, “Stop wishing your life away.” The first time that sunk in, his words shocked me, because I realized he was right. We were wanting to skip past part of our life to get to the good stuff. Unfortunately many of us just keep on doing that. It’s built into our psyche somehow. It’s the same mechanism that has us all rushing around like panicked rabbits.
I bet if you pay attention to your thoughts today…you will catch yourself wanting to rush through something to get to the good stuff. I can’t wait for break…I can’t wait for supper. I can’t wait to get home and take my shoes off and relax. I can’t wait till my vacation starts. If I rush through this I can go home earlier.
I know I’m guilty of that.
Now you might ask what is wrong with that…and I refer you back to my grandfather. “You are wishing your life away,” quite literally.
It’s okay to feel the thrill of anticipation…after all what would sex be like without anticipation? The point is to enjoy the anticipation as much as the actual event you are anticipating. The problem arises when you rush through a part of your life so you can get to the good stuff.
It’s all good stuff! There are no ordinary moments.
We rush off to have a spectacular dinner, then rush through the dinner so we can get home in time to watch our favorite TV show. While we
watch the show we are thinking about getting ready for bed and….well you get the idea.
There are several things you can do to counter this mad hatter dash. One of those things is to remember that you are always “here”. Even if you get on a plane and fly to Japan. When you get off the plane…where are you?…here. I could get really metaphysical and say we never move…we are always in the same location…since the largest part of us is outside of time, living as source energy.
Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been working on recognizing there is no reason for the rush. We need to enjoy every moment. When you understand that metaphysically, you are all always here…what on earth is the rush?
I’ve developed a very simple process for this. The idea came from Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes LivesLiterature & Fiction Books) which I am currently re-reading and that reminded me of this easy simple way to bring yourself back into the present moment from the “rush”.
It’s two questions. Two answers and you repeat them over and over until you extricate yourself from “the rush”.
Here they are:
Where am I right now? Here
What time is it? Now.
This will help you pull back from skipping over whole chunks of your life. Just like rushing through your Wednesday because your half way through your week and Friday night you get to go to a party and see all your friends and have a blast.
Rushing to get to the good stuff, means you skip all the good stuff in between. I know I want to experience ALL the good stuff…how about you?
Where am I right now? Here
What time is it? Now
Repeat until you are back in the present moment.